Internet dating as a poly has taught me about ‘unicorns, ’ the worthiness of interaction, and the things I want in life.

Study component we of Kaitlin Fontana’s series on non-monogamy right here.

About ten years ago, whenever my peers began flocking to sites that are dating OKCupid and a good amount of Fish, we balked. If i possibly couldn’t satisfy somebody in real world, I was thinking, then why would i wish to fulfill them into the insanity for the internet?

This aversion to online dating sites stayed intact for the number of years — through my serial monogamy years, whenever I ended up being mostly dating males we came across through the comedy community (hanging when you look at the bar after programs happens to be a monument to “The Men We Have Touched”). But that changed once I chose to embrace nonmonogamy.

Ends up, it is very difficult to fulfill other monogamy-averse people IRL, without one being some type of odd meetup saved in a dark manhattan club full of weirdos, just like the Cantina scene from Star Wars but sadder and with nary a Han Solo can be found ( more on this in an additional). (more…)